“Tell me I am wrong , ‘she muttered . ‘My best friend wants me to drink and toast to the success of people she has helped yet I am in need of the same help . If she has reservations as to why she can’t vouch me , why not tell me headon so that I can be better ? She lamented ,her words came out with edges of bitterness and sadness .
These are some of the challenges encountered with different perceptions of friendships . While one party may view the relationship to be deep ,the other party may not view it in the same light. My first instinct was to advise the lamentor to take a step back and examine that relationship whether equal energies were spent ,whether they were clear on values ,on lines of communication,day to day interaction s. I felt the complications in the matter yet leaned on honesty as the only medicine that could heal that situation for her. Honesty has its own discomforts yet with honesty clarity is provided . ‘ Seek honesty from your heart and her’. I said . She had a difficult conversation . Several aspects emerged . The friend could never give her best friend ‘ managerial” advise . She told her to seek her leaders feedback if she wanted to improve and maybe that would erase her reservations that could enable her to vouch for her in her diverse networks .
Friendship dynamics
Do you believe in genuine friendships ? How do you reconcile your differences to make friendships work ?
Let me know .
